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Body Erotic

by Demetria
Goddess Garden
Heart of Herbs Herbal School


Being a sexual vibrant Horny woman can be erotic, a great mother, guilt free and a highly sexual being.

Some ways to be a sexual being means to find your body erotic, this means to find your glamorous, sexual, earthy, vibrant primal love inside. One who has her body erotic feels this way about herself, her lover and her family, if she has one.

This woman is one who has power, presence, self esteem, and is not afraid of having it all. Quite often when something goes in family situations, with career goals, etc.. it is sex. There are reasons we need to feel sexual.

We are animals, we need to feel loved, passion, touch. One who screams, rocks, feels orgasms from her toes to the ends of her hair. We also need to know that our family's are going to be okay and that the dishes can wait. Being an erotic being means we sometimes have to accept not being perfect, not being a super woman and just being us. The sexiest thing in the world is a secure confident woman.

A Women's Love-what to do when the mood isn't always forthcoming..

Often through the ages we have come to confuse lust and sex with love. In an ideal world our love would be reflected with sensuality, sexuality, primal lust and desire but commitment, compassion, friendship and devotion.

Often we have one or two of each sides of the spectrum and we have to work a little harder for the others. I am writing this as a mother of two, herbalist, business owner and a breastfeeder, so yes ladies I have been there. I know about sleepless nights and activities and having an overtired
life, we are all women on this journey, sisters at arms and we are going to conquer the obstacles of modern sexuality.

I hope to share with you my experience, the experience of my friends and show you that you are not alone, we all have issues and hurdles to cross and I hope that this book will make some of those hurdles a little easier.

Loving my husband is the most fulfilling adult relationship I have ever known. Having sex with my husband is always an adventure, joy and pleasure. Having sex can also wait. We can live and have dry times and very abundant times. We decided to not let having small children alter our quality of love and we accepted that it would alter our quantity.

So to start it would probably be best to explain how you can make all of the suggested remedies yourself. I really believe that most people can make the everyday herbals and toiletries they need for everyday use.

Licorice- Glycyrrhiza glabra
Licorice has similar estrogenic properties as woman and it can help to bring
us back into balance. It makes a wonderful tea also. Licorice can cause a
little water retention though and it can be used with horsetail or dandelion
to counteract the retention effect.
Licorice Tea
1 part Licorice Root
½ part Horsetail
Drink a cup 3x times a day. Licorice has been folklorically linked to weight
loss so don't use this daily.

Motherwort-Leonurus cardiaca
Motherwort is great for mother's every need. It assists in soothing away the
days trials and it is named justly so Mother Herb. Wort is also another word
for herb. Motherwort has shown to be specifically effective in cases of
anxiety and stress.
This can be taking in a tea form or in a tincture form. If used as a tea
you can use one teaspoon infused 3 times a day, or take l-4ml of the
tincture three times a day.

Hops- Humulus lupulus
Hops is a great herb for assisting in breastfeeding libido deficiency, this
herb is not only great for milk production it has estrogenic properties and
can assist in relaxing the women. Hops have been shown to be beneficial in
times of anxiety, tension and restlessness. Hops can be made into a tea,
taken as tincture or drank as a beer, one beer. I do not promote alcohol
being used to bring upon sex, I also do not think drinking is good to do
while breastfeeding but one beer is said to fine and is recommended with for
let down issues. Please spend a little extra and buy a high quality brew,
everything that is in the beer will appear in your milk so the high the qual
ity the better. To Make as an Infusion: pour a cup of boiling water onto l
teaspoonful of the dried flowers and let infuse for approximately 20
minutes. A cup should be drunk at night to induce sleep. This dose may be
made stronger if needed. Tincture: take l-4 ml of the tincture three times a
day. This can be bitter and you can use a little sweetener. Hops should not
be used in cases of marked depression.

Cinnamon-Cinnamomum zeylanicum

Cinnamon is often used to relight fires and increase sexual desire and it is
completely safe for nursing. Cinnamon is warming and it slowly and
seductively spreads heart through your whole body. Try this by a handful of
cinnamon bark curls. Place them in a jar and inhale. Feel the herb drift
into your senses. Now try making a tea, or try placing some in a open pot
with boiling water and allow the steam to fill your house. Smell that smell,
it is a fiery red smoldering smell, desire. You can even add a vanilla pod.
You can also try sprinkling a little bit of powdered cinnamon in your hair.
Just a pinch. Scenting your hair is a highly erotic task because you think
of how it feels when your lover inhales the smell of your body and your
hair. You can do this with that anticipation, that you feel when you start
getting excited and feeling sexy.

Sexy Cinnamon Tea
2 parts Cinnamon Bark
1 part Motherwort
½ part Hops
Make as a decoction and allow to steep for 10-15 minutes. You can drink this
when you have a few minutes alone to allow the fire of the cinnamon to build
up onside you. Relax and imagine the fire smoldering inside you. See the
fire start at your vagina and imagine it spreading and heating your whole
body slowly, branching out.

You can also purchase cinnamon leaves, crush them and leave them in an open
container under the bed.

Spearmint- Mentha viridis
When one thinks of loving one generally doesn't think of mint. The mints are
uplifting, refreshing and everywhere and if your mood needs to be uplifted
and your body refreshed then mint may be perfect for you. Parkinson, in his
Garden of Pleasure 'Mintes are sometimes used in Baths with Balm and other
herbs as a help to comfort and strengthen the nerves and sinews. It is much
used either outwardly applied or inwardly drunk to strengthen and comfort
weak stomaches.'
Well that says it all. A great all around momma herb, great for the nerves
and child tummy trouble. Some great ways to use mint are, take a pinched
sprig and rub it behind your ears, and make a mint bath.

Mint Bath
1 cup fresh spearmint simmered
½ cup Oatmeal
5 drops Peppermint Essential oil
Simmer the finely ground oatmeal and fresh spearmint for 15 minutes in 5 cups of water.
Strain, add the essential oil and pour into bath. Make sure the bath is finely dispersed.

Mint Balm
½ cup coconut oil
10 drops Peppermint Essential oil
5 drops lavender
1 tablespoon Almond or Apricot oil
This is a great after bath balm.
Melt the coconut oil in a double boiler and mix in the oil and essential oil
and pour into a container. The oil will melt at a relatively low
temperature. Use this after bath, also great for moisturizing those rough spots.

Sweet Sex
½ cup almond oil
10 drops Ylang-Ylang
5 Drops Patchouli
2 drops Sandalwood
This will warm and inspire. Massage on back, thighs, and the nape of the
neck and around the breasts.

Hot Sex
½ cup almond oil (you could also us apricot, grape seed or another carrier oil)
4 drops Black Pepper
4 drops Jasmine
4 drops Ylang-Ylang
This is hot!! It makes your skin warm and it lights that fire inside.
Massage into the thighs, use a nice firm massage and pay particular
attention to the inner thighs and buttocks.

Exotic Nights
½ cup almond oil (you could also us apricot, grape seed or another carrier oil)
5 drops Sandalwood
5 drops Neroli
3 drops Nutmeg
This will inspire the "pirate princess" in you or erotic priestess.

For Him
½ cup almond oil (you could also us apricot, grape seed or another carrier oil)
3 drops Lavender
2 drops Vanilla
5 drops Clary Sage
Causes a semi erotic stupor.

Joyful Sensuality
½ cup almond oil (you could also us apricot, grape seed or another carrier oil)
5 drops Neroli
3 drops Mandarin
5 drops Vanilla

A sexy bath or shower will not only ease away a tired mind but it can bring water into the sexual play. Water is extremely erotic, our bodies are mostly water. We are graceful, weightless and slick in the water. Often water can ease and hydrate a drier vagina and the heat can make it feel fuller and sexier to the woman. Before you partner joins you shower and apply a shower gel to clean and exfoliate your body, this can incorporate you feeling sexy with yourself first or you can have your mate exfoliate your body for you.

Mix the following together.
1 cup unscented castile soap
2 tablespoons finely ground almonds
2 tablespoons sea salt
2 tablespoons ground oats
You can add a teaspoon of almond, or apricot kernel oil to the blend for a moisturizing effect.
Apply with a loofa and gently wash your whole body. This will awaken and allow you to feel refreshed and your skin new and alive.

Having sex is also wonderful in the shower, ever inch of your skin is sprinkled with water, the heat causes more sensitivity for some and water is highly erotic. Please do not use bath oil in a shower or tub you may be standing in later to have sex. You don't want to slip and fall.

Then apply a wonderfully scented shower moisturizer.
2 tablespoons coconut oil
2 drops sandalwood or ylang ylang
Then invite your mate into the shower to be with you all hot, smelling yummy
and with skin as smooth as silk.

Use bath salts base recipe
1-cup sea salt
1 cup Epsom salts
1 cup Mineral Salts (Borax)
Add to it the following combinations of essential oils or come up with your
own blends.

Milk Bath Salts
1 cup Epsom salts
1/8 cup powdered milk
1/8 cup Borax
2 oz. Sodium Bicarbonate
2 oz. Sea Salt ( fine to medium)
2 oz. Utah mineral salt, or Irish sea salts, dead sea salts
1 1/2 tsp. Vegetable glycerin
1 tsp. Essential oil of choice, for a more potent oil reduce the amount
added into the mixture. Use a ¼ cup per bath.

Fizzle Bath Salts
1 lb. baking soda
8 oz. wt. citric acid
8 oz. wt. cornstarch

Add a few drops of the erotic essential oils I listed previously.

Whisk baking soda in a bowl to destroy any lumps and place to the side. Fold the citric acid and cornstarch in another bowl. Add essential oil to citric acid-cornstarch mixture and make sure the oil is blended well into the dry ingredients. Combine essential oil mixture and baking soda, blend thoroughly. Store in an air-tight container. Use 1/4-1/2 cup per bath.

In the bath allow yourself to relax and become one with the healing, soothing sexuality of the water. Our lives are so deeply immersed in water, we are water, we make milk (watery) we make tears, we moisten our vaginas when aroused, we have tides and erotic sensations come in waves, we are water.

Being sexy can't be bought and feeling sexy has nothing to do with looks, it is about being you. You just being a woman are sexy, sensous and erotic, these are things that are out of control, being comfortable and in love with that about your being is what is true sexiness is about.

Demetria Clark is an herbalist living in Vermont with her husband and two children. She owns Goddess Garden, and operates Heart of Herbs Herbal School.